TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Take what you can use and let the rest go by.".... Ken Kesey, 1935-2001, American Author (known for the book "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest")
The amount of weight you carry is completely up to you. Others can place things upon your shoulders... that much is true. But unless you firmly grasp onto that burden there is no way in hell it will stay balanced there on its own. One step without clutching hold and it will roll into the dirt. Let it slide. Allow it to slip. Shove it if necessary... but free yourself.
The world is overflowing with content, some good, some not... choose your own filling wisely. Absorb what makes forward motion easier, discard things that slow you down. See life as a journey you are taking then pack what makes sense to carry along.
When you go out to eat, you do not order everything on the menu. Allow life to be a banquet... but do not swallow things that others try to shove down your throat. Most times the only reason it is getting placed upon your plate is because someone else does not wish it upon their own. Fill your plate yourself and eat with gusto. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then decide!!!!
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Friday, September 29, 2006
The Creating Force Of Love
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"In order to create there must be a dynamic force, and what force is more potent than love?".... Igor Stravinsky, 1882-1971, Russian-born Musical Composer
I believe most of us truly understand the healing power of the love that we shower upon our fellow-man. Its dynamic force not only creates... it also re-creates. It lifts up even the most downhearted and if they're wise enough they become all the better from the touch of our gentle regard. And we benefit as well; love transforms the loving as well as the beloved. The vast majority of us have at least an inkling of the true power of our love for one another, yet too few of us realize the strength that comes from a more personal approach.
We don't fully comprehend the love we should feel for ourselves. I'm not talking about conceit in even the smallest measure. Egotistic people believe they're better than anyone else. Anyone who acts from that perspective is a tyrant who loves a fool. The love of self that I'm speaking of is the one that extends the same care and concern for ourselves as we do toward anyone else.
The fact is... if we love ourselves:
We become naturally protective of our personal space and what we allow inside of its boundaries.
We respect our opinions enough to consider them at least as valid as anyone else's.
We grow in a healthy fashion, learning balance by giving extra space to what is truly important by reducing the areas we stuff with incidentals.
We gather positives and discard negatives then gift our fellow-man with bouquets of vivid color.
We become naturally more gentle with everyone else when we practice with ourselves first.
We hear our soul-voice and respond to its urgings with a certainty that it has no agenda except the total health and happiness of all of our layers.
The list could go on endlessly, but I imagine you have the rhythm of my thought pattern by this point. Be loving toward self and love grows for everyone and everything else. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"In order to create there must be a dynamic force, and what force is more potent than love?".... Igor Stravinsky, 1882-1971, Russian-born Musical Composer
I believe most of us truly understand the healing power of the love that we shower upon our fellow-man. Its dynamic force not only creates... it also re-creates. It lifts up even the most downhearted and if they're wise enough they become all the better from the touch of our gentle regard. And we benefit as well; love transforms the loving as well as the beloved. The vast majority of us have at least an inkling of the true power of our love for one another, yet too few of us realize the strength that comes from a more personal approach.
We don't fully comprehend the love we should feel for ourselves. I'm not talking about conceit in even the smallest measure. Egotistic people believe they're better than anyone else. Anyone who acts from that perspective is a tyrant who loves a fool. The love of self that I'm speaking of is the one that extends the same care and concern for ourselves as we do toward anyone else.
The fact is... if we love ourselves:
We become naturally protective of our personal space and what we allow inside of its boundaries.
We respect our opinions enough to consider them at least as valid as anyone else's.
We grow in a healthy fashion, learning balance by giving extra space to what is truly important by reducing the areas we stuff with incidentals.
We gather positives and discard negatives then gift our fellow-man with bouquets of vivid color.
We become naturally more gentle with everyone else when we practice with ourselves first.
We hear our soul-voice and respond to its urgings with a certainty that it has no agenda except the total health and happiness of all of our layers.
The list could go on endlessly, but I imagine you have the rhythm of my thought pattern by this point. Be loving toward self and love grows for everyone and everything else. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Priceless Days
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"They deem me mad because I will not sell my days for gold; and I deem them mad because they think my days have a price.".... Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931, Lebanese Poet and Novelist
Each day is priceless. None more or less unique than the next, none the same... except in their promised possibilities. Their value is constant, but our value of them certainly fluctuates from one end of the spectrum to the other. We all too often allow or invite life's bothersome details and annoying incidentals to overtake our appreciation of what a wondrous gift it is to even have a lifetime.
Every moment is magical in the amount of sensation that can be crammed into it if we simply give them the attention they deserve. Feeling fully takes a determined dedication to completely validate every emotion and carefully observe each tick of the clock. If we have to be here anyway it is much wiser to enjoy it to the fullest. Pay close attention and you will be delighted in how much joy you can squeeze out of the smallest thing. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"They deem me mad because I will not sell my days for gold; and I deem them mad because they think my days have a price.".... Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931, Lebanese Poet and Novelist
Each day is priceless. None more or less unique than the next, none the same... except in their promised possibilities. Their value is constant, but our value of them certainly fluctuates from one end of the spectrum to the other. We all too often allow or invite life's bothersome details and annoying incidentals to overtake our appreciation of what a wondrous gift it is to even have a lifetime.
Every moment is magical in the amount of sensation that can be crammed into it if we simply give them the attention they deserve. Feeling fully takes a determined dedication to completely validate every emotion and carefully observe each tick of the clock. If we have to be here anyway it is much wiser to enjoy it to the fullest. Pay close attention and you will be delighted in how much joy you can squeeze out of the smallest thing. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Trust
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Without trust, words become the hollow sound of a wooden gong. With trust, words become life itself.".... John Harold
True confidence in what is said by anyone cannot be fully felt without the actions that prove what they say is factual. Simply leaning on promises can quickly land you in a heap at someone else's feet; their hostage who's trapped themselves by blind belief in empty words. Been there... done that... got the tee-shirt... it just doesn't fit anymore... THANK GOD!!!!
Once there's a solid foundation built then total trust is more than possible; it's a mandatory tool of any healthy relationship. But blind TOTAL trust before that point is so very dangerous to the heart and soul. Its value is priceless when deserved but its damage can be fatal otherwise. A bit of caution is wise.
I have known people who refuse to trust anyone because of the agony that they suffered by placing their trust in the wrong person. Once bitten, twice shy has a deep meaning that we all understand. But to let one bad apple (or a dozen) spoil the whole barrel is self-defeating in the extreme.
The baggage that a dishonest person packs for you is a brutal load to carry. You remain their victim long after they're gone by continuing to carry a burden that got thrust upon you through no fault of your own. And making someone else carry it too just compounds the issue. Every person deserves the chance to prove themselves true to their word. Some people truly mean exactly what they say and say exactly what they mean.
Total strangers tell me the most personal things. Friends admit all their worst misdeeds. I count myself lucky to be trusted, but I'm willing to prove it to the death. I give my trust with the attitude that everyone deserves an even chance to do right without my expectations that they'll naturally do wrong. If proven true, well then that's a wondrous thing... proven false then it's simply not my burden to carry.
Without trust no kind of accord is possible. I have no time to waste on phantoms nowadays. Bite me once and I go on truly undamaged. Bite me twice and I bite back. But whatever I carry away from the experience is only what I pack myself. Other people's issues aren't placed inside the trunk I value as sacred.
Pack it carefully, it's the only space you possess to fill with YOUR priceless treasures. Pack it with lessons learned. Place inside the memories of better days... and the hope of even better ones, yet lived. Cram it full of joy. Stuff it with delight. It's yours to carry so make that burden light. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Without trust, words become the hollow sound of a wooden gong. With trust, words become life itself.".... John Harold
True confidence in what is said by anyone cannot be fully felt without the actions that prove what they say is factual. Simply leaning on promises can quickly land you in a heap at someone else's feet; their hostage who's trapped themselves by blind belief in empty words. Been there... done that... got the tee-shirt... it just doesn't fit anymore... THANK GOD!!!!
Once there's a solid foundation built then total trust is more than possible; it's a mandatory tool of any healthy relationship. But blind TOTAL trust before that point is so very dangerous to the heart and soul. Its value is priceless when deserved but its damage can be fatal otherwise. A bit of caution is wise.
I have known people who refuse to trust anyone because of the agony that they suffered by placing their trust in the wrong person. Once bitten, twice shy has a deep meaning that we all understand. But to let one bad apple (or a dozen) spoil the whole barrel is self-defeating in the extreme.
The baggage that a dishonest person packs for you is a brutal load to carry. You remain their victim long after they're gone by continuing to carry a burden that got thrust upon you through no fault of your own. And making someone else carry it too just compounds the issue. Every person deserves the chance to prove themselves true to their word. Some people truly mean exactly what they say and say exactly what they mean.
Total strangers tell me the most personal things. Friends admit all their worst misdeeds. I count myself lucky to be trusted, but I'm willing to prove it to the death. I give my trust with the attitude that everyone deserves an even chance to do right without my expectations that they'll naturally do wrong. If proven true, well then that's a wondrous thing... proven false then it's simply not my burden to carry.
Without trust no kind of accord is possible. I have no time to waste on phantoms nowadays. Bite me once and I go on truly undamaged. Bite me twice and I bite back. But whatever I carry away from the experience is only what I pack myself. Other people's issues aren't placed inside the trunk I value as sacred.
Pack it carefully, it's the only space you possess to fill with YOUR priceless treasures. Pack it with lessons learned. Place inside the memories of better days... and the hope of even better ones, yet lived. Cram it full of joy. Stuff it with delight. It's yours to carry so make that burden light. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
The Strength Of Purpose
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"You are only as strong as your purpose, therefore let us choose reasons to act that are big, bold, righteous, and eternal.".... Barry Munro
Having a higher purpose than simply taking up space gives a richness to life that cannot be gotten going down any other avenue. A goal to work toward makes it easier to stay on a course of your own choosing. Life will force one on you if one is not chosen.
Default is not a setting we should ever willingly allow, for it seldom conforms to our true nature. A path with heart is always the best road to travel upon. A journey with soul always leads to somewhere worth inhabiting. Why just stumble along? Why not opt for the best option? Why not pick a perfect path?
Discriminating destinations are such magical places. Visit at least one before settling for putting down roots wherever situations out of your control have planted you. Life is so precious, treat it with respect, create some symmetry and balance to insure a peaceful soul. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"You are only as strong as your purpose, therefore let us choose reasons to act that are big, bold, righteous, and eternal.".... Barry Munro
Having a higher purpose than simply taking up space gives a richness to life that cannot be gotten going down any other avenue. A goal to work toward makes it easier to stay on a course of your own choosing. Life will force one on you if one is not chosen.
Default is not a setting we should ever willingly allow, for it seldom conforms to our true nature. A path with heart is always the best road to travel upon. A journey with soul always leads to somewhere worth inhabiting. Why just stumble along? Why not opt for the best option? Why not pick a perfect path?
Discriminating destinations are such magical places. Visit at least one before settling for putting down roots wherever situations out of your control have planted you. Life is so precious, treat it with respect, create some symmetry and balance to insure a peaceful soul. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Monday, September 25, 2006
Loyalty
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"An ounce of loyalty is worth a pound of cleverness.".... Elbert Hubbard
An ounce of loyalty is priceless. It cannot be bought, except in kind. Once earned it should be steadfast in its intensity, but since it is so valuable it should never be tossed about carelessly. I treat it with much more honor now than I once did. Live and learn is a brutal thing sometimes. But knowing better now is worth the pain... some people never learn at all, so I count myself lucky in that regard.
Loyalty is akin to trust, some deserve it and some only get it by default. Love can be the great deceiver. We sometimes place priceless gifts before ones who pretend to be what we hope they are, and we are too far gone before the mask slips. Getting burned that way is a common risk, yet it is not reason enough to give up all hope.
My husband was an abuser, yet I loved him. My last boyfriend was a con-man, I loved him too. I gave all and came up mostly empty-handed. But I never lost hope. And finally that hope was highly rewarded. My life is peppered with times I remained loyal to people who were less than loyal to me. But... and hear this soul-deep... it was their loss... their issues... their damage... and ultimately their burden to carry.
Just because you are not loved in the way that is healthy and strong it does not mean that you are unlovable. Most times it means you put your faith in a leaky vessel. Most times the damage that caused the hole in their soul happened long before you ever appeared. Losing faith in yourself is what they want, feeling better when someone else is miserable is a common thing with such people.
Unconditional love should begin with yourself, until you can love yourself with all your many flaws it is too easy to place all your faith in someone unworthy of that gift. I learned well, now I am well-loved. The joy of it is magnified to staggering limits, because of all the years when all I knew was a heavy hand. It was worth the pain... and the wait... a just reward indeed.
I got the following in an email and saved it for placing here... now seems the right time.
Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."
I wrote the following poem when I simply hoped in fairytales being possible. Now that I know they are, I place it here in honor of DREAMS THAT DO COME TRUE. Never sell yourself short, as I once did. Never give up hope of a better tomorrow. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then decide!!!!
She sat upon her tower throne, a forgotten princess all alone,
Deep in thought, gazing at passing clouds of pastel foam.
Inside her surreal kingdom, the lonely sovereign heaved a heavy sigh,
All she ruled was centered inside herself, only God could master earth and sky.
Daydreaming of keys, and ladders, and every other means of escape,
Made the days of confinement much easier for her to take.
A twist of fate had landed her firmly upon this barren throne,
And try as she might it never could be her rightful home.
Lancelot stood tall in armor brightly polished and lifted brown eyes to blue,
He bowed then simply said, "Princess, I wish I could rescue you."
She smiled gently, regal from head to toe, even in her tattered gown,
"Sir Lancelot, I know it is not in your power to get this princess down.
But now someone knows, I am trapped here so now I'm not alone."
And at that moment her heart began to thaw, and the tower descended some.
The weary princess without serf's to order, or servants to boss about,
Struggled her throne window-side, and gave a triumphant shout.
She sat where he was visible, camped so far below, waiting for a clear sign,
That he was destined, and gifted by God's unfathomable, yet perfect design.
Her brow creased with sudden worry that he might simply turn out to be,
Just another brick in this mighty tower, not the keeper of the key.
It would take a brave knight, indeed, to aide her in this difficult escape,
To melt solid ice around her heart that made isolation her emotional fate.
The key to her decent was buried deep inside a lonely heart, terrified of breaking apart,
She needed to be sure that he possessed a true knight's heart.
Could she trust him to unbolt the padlock that she could not reach alone,
And wait for her at the base of the winding stairway, fashioned of cold grey stone.
Gentle words reached her as she sat trembling, trying to decide,
And without permission, as if fated the ice began to slide.
Beads cascaded down the iceberg, like tears of blessed relief,
And her tower prison shuddered from draw bridge to towering keep.
A smile graced her face as she drank in words of such intensity, like none she had heard before,
And the princess ached to answer the gentle knocking upon her hearts locked door.
As she sat frozen the key dropped into her trembling hand, and without a pause she tossed it upon the ground,
She leaned out the window and said to the knight below, "Lancelot, unlock the door, please, this princess is coming down."
GLENDA ALEXANDER
"An ounce of loyalty is worth a pound of cleverness.".... Elbert Hubbard
An ounce of loyalty is priceless. It cannot be bought, except in kind. Once earned it should be steadfast in its intensity, but since it is so valuable it should never be tossed about carelessly. I treat it with much more honor now than I once did. Live and learn is a brutal thing sometimes. But knowing better now is worth the pain... some people never learn at all, so I count myself lucky in that regard.
Loyalty is akin to trust, some deserve it and some only get it by default. Love can be the great deceiver. We sometimes place priceless gifts before ones who pretend to be what we hope they are, and we are too far gone before the mask slips. Getting burned that way is a common risk, yet it is not reason enough to give up all hope.
My husband was an abuser, yet I loved him. My last boyfriend was a con-man, I loved him too. I gave all and came up mostly empty-handed. But I never lost hope. And finally that hope was highly rewarded. My life is peppered with times I remained loyal to people who were less than loyal to me. But... and hear this soul-deep... it was their loss... their issues... their damage... and ultimately their burden to carry.
Just because you are not loved in the way that is healthy and strong it does not mean that you are unlovable. Most times it means you put your faith in a leaky vessel. Most times the damage that caused the hole in their soul happened long before you ever appeared. Losing faith in yourself is what they want, feeling better when someone else is miserable is a common thing with such people.
Unconditional love should begin with yourself, until you can love yourself with all your many flaws it is too easy to place all your faith in someone unworthy of that gift. I learned well, now I am well-loved. The joy of it is magnified to staggering limits, because of all the years when all I knew was a heavy hand. It was worth the pain... and the wait... a just reward indeed.
I got the following in an email and saved it for placing here... now seems the right time.
Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."
I wrote the following poem when I simply hoped in fairytales being possible. Now that I know they are, I place it here in honor of DREAMS THAT DO COME TRUE. Never sell yourself short, as I once did. Never give up hope of a better tomorrow. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then decide!!!!
The Tower Princess
She sat upon her tower throne, a forgotten princess all alone,
Deep in thought, gazing at passing clouds of pastel foam.
Inside her surreal kingdom, the lonely sovereign heaved a heavy sigh,
All she ruled was centered inside herself, only God could master earth and sky.
Daydreaming of keys, and ladders, and every other means of escape,
Made the days of confinement much easier for her to take.
A twist of fate had landed her firmly upon this barren throne,
And try as she might it never could be her rightful home.
Just when hope was fully dressed and dying to leave, a voice echoed from far below,
She rose slowly and leaned her head out of the tower window.Lancelot stood tall in armor brightly polished and lifted brown eyes to blue,
He bowed then simply said, "Princess, I wish I could rescue you."
She smiled gently, regal from head to toe, even in her tattered gown,
"Sir Lancelot, I know it is not in your power to get this princess down.
But now someone knows, I am trapped here so now I'm not alone."
And at that moment her heart began to thaw, and the tower descended some.
The weary princess without serf's to order, or servants to boss about,
Struggled her throne window-side, and gave a triumphant shout.
She sat where he was visible, camped so far below, waiting for a clear sign,
That he was destined, and gifted by God's unfathomable, yet perfect design.
Her brow creased with sudden worry that he might simply turn out to be,
Just another brick in this mighty tower, not the keeper of the key.
It would take a brave knight, indeed, to aide her in this difficult escape,
To melt solid ice around her heart that made isolation her emotional fate.
The key to her decent was buried deep inside a lonely heart, terrified of breaking apart,
She needed to be sure that he possessed a true knight's heart.
Could she trust him to unbolt the padlock that she could not reach alone,
And wait for her at the base of the winding stairway, fashioned of cold grey stone.
Gentle words reached her as she sat trembling, trying to decide,
And without permission, as if fated the ice began to slide.
Beads cascaded down the iceberg, like tears of blessed relief,
And her tower prison shuddered from draw bridge to towering keep.
A smile graced her face as she drank in words of such intensity, like none she had heard before,
And the princess ached to answer the gentle knocking upon her hearts locked door.
As she sat frozen the key dropped into her trembling hand, and without a pause she tossed it upon the ground,
She leaned out the window and said to the knight below, "Lancelot, unlock the door, please, this princess is coming down."
GLENDA ALEXANDER
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Things Worth Having
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, a touch that never hurts.".... Charles Dickens
This quote has some very worthy targets to aim toward; hitting them all at once is about as close to creating a miracle as we humans can get. I do my very best to reach these lofty marks, yet I'm as fallible as anyone else. Sometimes my aim truly sucks with a HUGE straw. Missing the mark is all too common, hitting a bull's eye very rare indeed. But the prize earned for every attempt merits the price paid, and how often in this life can that be said about any endeavor?
A heart that never hardens is broken more often than one encased in the thick walls we build to keep the aches away. But the damage is less costly in the long run if we remain tender hearted than if we become numbed by fear or cemented by bitterness. Loving is risky, but giving up that risk for the safety behind prison walls is fatal.
A mastered temper that never tires takes much exercise to achieve. It requires tongue biting, arguments with yourself that are often humbling in the extreme, and the list goes on and on. I've found that if we make a determined effort anything can be expressed in a reasonable manner. What is said isn't the most important factor, but how it's said certainly is and that takes some forethought. Mindless rage or defensive anger locks all doors leading to compromise.
A touch that never hurts can draw quite a crowd to you for comfort. And comforting others is like immersing a dry sponge into liquid. As you give it's returned. The way you touch others with your energy has only two ways of reacting. You can be a fountain... or you can be a drain. And with that image, I'll end my thoughts upon a quote that reinforces so many of my own personal beliefs. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, a touch that never hurts.".... Charles Dickens
This quote has some very worthy targets to aim toward; hitting them all at once is about as close to creating a miracle as we humans can get. I do my very best to reach these lofty marks, yet I'm as fallible as anyone else. Sometimes my aim truly sucks with a HUGE straw. Missing the mark is all too common, hitting a bull's eye very rare indeed. But the prize earned for every attempt merits the price paid, and how often in this life can that be said about any endeavor?
A heart that never hardens is broken more often than one encased in the thick walls we build to keep the aches away. But the damage is less costly in the long run if we remain tender hearted than if we become numbed by fear or cemented by bitterness. Loving is risky, but giving up that risk for the safety behind prison walls is fatal.
A mastered temper that never tires takes much exercise to achieve. It requires tongue biting, arguments with yourself that are often humbling in the extreme, and the list goes on and on. I've found that if we make a determined effort anything can be expressed in a reasonable manner. What is said isn't the most important factor, but how it's said certainly is and that takes some forethought. Mindless rage or defensive anger locks all doors leading to compromise.
A touch that never hurts can draw quite a crowd to you for comfort. And comforting others is like immersing a dry sponge into liquid. As you give it's returned. The way you touch others with your energy has only two ways of reacting. You can be a fountain... or you can be a drain. And with that image, I'll end my thoughts upon a quote that reinforces so many of my own personal beliefs. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Saturday, September 23, 2006
Moving Beauty
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty. It merely moves from their faces to their hearts.".... Martin Buxbaum
Working with the elderly taught me that well, and what is in the heart shines out through the eyes. Youth and beauty stays clearly visible in people who do not let life make them bitter and old.
Nothing ages us faster than the negatives we absorb then radiate outward. Nothing drains us of beauty faster than losing hope. But rediscovering it can do more repair than plastic surgery. I know this for a fact because I looked much older at 40 than I do now at 52. The day of my rebirth was a time machine trip that is still taking place.
I wrote a poem about that day and what it has meant to me. I share it here in hopes that the ones reading who have had similar experiences will find something too relate to and the ones who have not will find some hope.
THE ART OF FLYING FREE
First birth gave me life, a gift of uncertain value, in which I had no real say.
I wasted some precious time myself then gave the rest away.
Barely breathing, half-way through to journeys most certain ending,
I wrestled it back and gifted myself with a new beginning.
Coming to my senses felt like waking from a tightly clinging nightmare,
Old tired habits protested against change with frightful screams of terror.
A small grain of self roared all opposition into sudden deafening silence,
And passion to do more than just exist forced a coward into instant compliance.
Every footstep ventured now, is dream driven and lovingly taken,
Toward a life that better fits my soul, than the one so long ago forsaken.
A narrow rut would not be near roomy enough to contain the visions I see,
And autopilot could not teach me anything useful about the art of flying free.
copyrite glenda mahan 2000
If you are not flying free yet, find your wings. If you are, soar as high as possible. And as always.... think about it.... let it grow.... then decide!!!!
"Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty. It merely moves from their faces to their hearts.".... Martin Buxbaum
Working with the elderly taught me that well, and what is in the heart shines out through the eyes. Youth and beauty stays clearly visible in people who do not let life make them bitter and old.
Nothing ages us faster than the negatives we absorb then radiate outward. Nothing drains us of beauty faster than losing hope. But rediscovering it can do more repair than plastic surgery. I know this for a fact because I looked much older at 40 than I do now at 52. The day of my rebirth was a time machine trip that is still taking place.
I wrote a poem about that day and what it has meant to me. I share it here in hopes that the ones reading who have had similar experiences will find something too relate to and the ones who have not will find some hope.
THE ART OF FLYING FREE
First birth gave me life, a gift of uncertain value, in which I had no real say.
I wasted some precious time myself then gave the rest away.
Barely breathing, half-way through to journeys most certain ending,
I wrestled it back and gifted myself with a new beginning.
Coming to my senses felt like waking from a tightly clinging nightmare,
Old tired habits protested against change with frightful screams of terror.
A small grain of self roared all opposition into sudden deafening silence,
And passion to do more than just exist forced a coward into instant compliance.
Every footstep ventured now, is dream driven and lovingly taken,
Toward a life that better fits my soul, than the one so long ago forsaken.
A narrow rut would not be near roomy enough to contain the visions I see,
And autopilot could not teach me anything useful about the art of flying free.
copyrite glenda mahan 2000
If you are not flying free yet, find your wings. If you are, soar as high as possible. And as always.... think about it.... let it grow.... then decide!!!!
Friday, September 22, 2006
Chances For Improvement
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Our lives improve only when we take chances --- and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.".... Walter Anderson
The chances we take that make the most positive differences are the ones our soul demands for its own health and survival. We can only ignore its voice for so long before giving in, or risking lasting damage of the worst sort. A souls death is a voluntary occurrence... others can do things that make you soul-sick, but if you step past that point it's suicide. And being dead inside is a most brutal existence that can be avoided by placing more faith in your own ability to find true peace and happiness then you do in anyone else.
You're truly the master of just how much power you waste trying to pass that responsibility onto someone else. Some people may pretend that they're the one and only answer to all that ails you. They may be so convincing that you believe that soul deep and alter every move you make to dance to a tune they idly hum. You may be the one who convinces them that they hold the saviors role in your happily ever after drama. Either way it's bullshit! You've got to dig past the fairytales to reach reality... there really isn't any other way.
We play follow the leader with our peers easily enough, yet too rarely follow the dictates of a part of ourselves that is designed to teach us how to find real peace. True balance comes from the inside out, but we all too often insist on looking outward for answers. Whatever it is that we need to become whole is found internally and the map is written on our souls. Once we reach that depth we don't have to search, all we need to do is listen to that quiet voice and follow its directions.
Sounds simple doesn't it? Life is truly made much more complex by our own foolishness. When the solution seems too simple to be viable it's a human frailty to dismiss it as not worth the effort of a fair trial. But I promise you that it's the only way to get there from wherever it is you're wandering. Sometimes what it asks is brutal; facing hard truths about yourself and the ones you love isn't an easy task. But until the facts are accepted it's impossible to change whatever you must to make final peace and end all internal battles.
Shut out all the chatter around you and tune into yourself. Stop acting as clueless as a sheep led to the slaughter and think before you take actions you can't take back. Refuse to hold the tail of the rut-walker in front of you and scale the side to stand on firm ground. Rip the blinders off before your next step takes you off the side of a cliff you didn't even know was there. Look deep inside, peace is waiting for you there. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Our lives improve only when we take chances --- and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.".... Walter Anderson
The chances we take that make the most positive differences are the ones our soul demands for its own health and survival. We can only ignore its voice for so long before giving in, or risking lasting damage of the worst sort. A souls death is a voluntary occurrence... others can do things that make you soul-sick, but if you step past that point it's suicide. And being dead inside is a most brutal existence that can be avoided by placing more faith in your own ability to find true peace and happiness then you do in anyone else.
You're truly the master of just how much power you waste trying to pass that responsibility onto someone else. Some people may pretend that they're the one and only answer to all that ails you. They may be so convincing that you believe that soul deep and alter every move you make to dance to a tune they idly hum. You may be the one who convinces them that they hold the saviors role in your happily ever after drama. Either way it's bullshit! You've got to dig past the fairytales to reach reality... there really isn't any other way.
We play follow the leader with our peers easily enough, yet too rarely follow the dictates of a part of ourselves that is designed to teach us how to find real peace. True balance comes from the inside out, but we all too often insist on looking outward for answers. Whatever it is that we need to become whole is found internally and the map is written on our souls. Once we reach that depth we don't have to search, all we need to do is listen to that quiet voice and follow its directions.
Sounds simple doesn't it? Life is truly made much more complex by our own foolishness. When the solution seems too simple to be viable it's a human frailty to dismiss it as not worth the effort of a fair trial. But I promise you that it's the only way to get there from wherever it is you're wandering. Sometimes what it asks is brutal; facing hard truths about yourself and the ones you love isn't an easy task. But until the facts are accepted it's impossible to change whatever you must to make final peace and end all internal battles.
Shut out all the chatter around you and tune into yourself. Stop acting as clueless as a sheep led to the slaughter and think before you take actions you can't take back. Refuse to hold the tail of the rut-walker in front of you and scale the side to stand on firm ground. Rip the blinders off before your next step takes you off the side of a cliff you didn't even know was there. Look deep inside, peace is waiting for you there. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Thursday, September 21, 2006
Get Caught Up
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Once men are caught up in an event, they cease to be afraid. Only the unknown frightens men.".... Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1900-1944)
When fear has control it freezes us rock-solid. Action defrosts us, allowing healthy growth to overcome any threat of frost bite to tender tissue. The tackling of fear broadens our horizons. It strengthens our resolve to get as much as we can out of life. Our strengths are only limited by our perceptions of their true power. Fear only distorts the picture.
Rational images rarely come from a panicked state, where seeing the bogyman is all too common. But he is not real. He is a mind phantom, who only exists if we breath life into any shadow of a doubt that we have about our own ability. Faith and action is our only defense, but they work together in a flawless way to free us from a phantoms grip.
Giving into fright alters the quality of life by stunting growth and narrowing our choices. Living in fear is not a full life, by any stretch of the imagination. Doing something you fear is liberating. You never realize what you can accomplish until you accomplish something you thought impossible.
I make it a common practice to tackle things that I fear. The phantom train of thought is not a mode of transportation I ever want to travel on nowadays. Too many years were already wasted on that journey to nowhere for me to ever willingly board that train again.
Put fear to the test and watch it fail in its battle to keep you from success. Face a phantom and watch it evaporate. Get caught up in life and really live. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then decide!!!!
"Once men are caught up in an event, they cease to be afraid. Only the unknown frightens men.".... Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1900-1944)
When fear has control it freezes us rock-solid. Action defrosts us, allowing healthy growth to overcome any threat of frost bite to tender tissue. The tackling of fear broadens our horizons. It strengthens our resolve to get as much as we can out of life. Our strengths are only limited by our perceptions of their true power. Fear only distorts the picture.
Rational images rarely come from a panicked state, where seeing the bogyman is all too common. But he is not real. He is a mind phantom, who only exists if we breath life into any shadow of a doubt that we have about our own ability. Faith and action is our only defense, but they work together in a flawless way to free us from a phantoms grip.
Giving into fright alters the quality of life by stunting growth and narrowing our choices. Living in fear is not a full life, by any stretch of the imagination. Doing something you fear is liberating. You never realize what you can accomplish until you accomplish something you thought impossible.
I make it a common practice to tackle things that I fear. The phantom train of thought is not a mode of transportation I ever want to travel on nowadays. Too many years were already wasted on that journey to nowhere for me to ever willingly board that train again.
Put fear to the test and watch it fail in its battle to keep you from success. Face a phantom and watch it evaporate. Get caught up in life and really live. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then decide!!!!
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
Power Worth Knowing
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"I want to know not his earning power but his yearning power.".... David McCord
The only balance I ever care about is the one inside of a person. Money is nice, but it never has and never will feed the parts of me that have known starvation. It does not turn my crank. It does not make me tick, tick, tick. It simply is not my God.
Worshiping at a bank is deadly dangerous to the soul of any man foolish enough to make it his religion. It will never be mine. The road to hell is often paved with greenbacks so the greedy will easily find their way there. If I end up toasting it will not be for the love of green paper they make in a factory.
What others have is just not of any real interest to me. But what they think, feel, and dream is the meat I feed upon. You learn very little of import about anyone from what they possess, it is the things that possess them that tells the story I wish to know. A bank statement would put me fast sleep, but a soul peek can create a never ending best seller.
Depth is not found in possessions. Look deep and there lies the real treasures. Find a persons true colors by examining their heart, mind, and soul. Looking in their pockets is a total waste of time, and is only done by the very shallow. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!
"I want to know not his earning power but his yearning power.".... David McCord
The only balance I ever care about is the one inside of a person. Money is nice, but it never has and never will feed the parts of me that have known starvation. It does not turn my crank. It does not make me tick, tick, tick. It simply is not my God.
Worshiping at a bank is deadly dangerous to the soul of any man foolish enough to make it his religion. It will never be mine. The road to hell is often paved with greenbacks so the greedy will easily find their way there. If I end up toasting it will not be for the love of green paper they make in a factory.
What others have is just not of any real interest to me. But what they think, feel, and dream is the meat I feed upon. You learn very little of import about anyone from what they possess, it is the things that possess them that tells the story I wish to know. A bank statement would put me fast sleep, but a soul peek can create a never ending best seller.
Depth is not found in possessions. Look deep and there lies the real treasures. Find a persons true colors by examining their heart, mind, and soul. Looking in their pockets is a total waste of time, and is only done by the very shallow. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Praise
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Praise is a powerful people-builder. Catch individuals doing something right.".... Brian Tracy
All too often it's only our negative actions that get any attention from the people around us. I suppose we just expect others to do right, so when they do we don't feel the need to voice any comment. But one little stumble from grace and mouths have no trouble flapping a mile a minute. Being swift to condemn is so easy unless you truly fight against the urge.
I always keep firmly in mind the fact that if I don't want to be harshly judged the best defense is to not pass judgments myself. God created this complex world, so it's his place to appraise our guilt or innocence and deliver our punishment. And I spect' He'll be much fairer than any human is capable of being, no matter what their station in life.
Use praise more often and encourage others to greater heights. Stroke one another, making at least equal note of the good as you do of the bad. Be fair! Be swift to congratulate and slow to condemn. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Praise is a powerful people-builder. Catch individuals doing something right.".... Brian Tracy
All too often it's only our negative actions that get any attention from the people around us. I suppose we just expect others to do right, so when they do we don't feel the need to voice any comment. But one little stumble from grace and mouths have no trouble flapping a mile a minute. Being swift to condemn is so easy unless you truly fight against the urge.
I always keep firmly in mind the fact that if I don't want to be harshly judged the best defense is to not pass judgments myself. God created this complex world, so it's his place to appraise our guilt or innocence and deliver our punishment. And I spect' He'll be much fairer than any human is capable of being, no matter what their station in life.
Use praise more often and encourage others to greater heights. Stroke one another, making at least equal note of the good as you do of the bad. Be fair! Be swift to congratulate and slow to condemn. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Monday, September 18, 2006
Fences
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.".... Robert Frost, 1874-1963, American Poet and Pulitzer Prize Winner
Boundaries are important, truly understanding why they exist is vital to keeping your three feet of personal space as drama free as possible. Normally we build fences to keep out predators. Maintaining a safe distance is a wise thing, but true knowledge about all your fences and who built them is wiser still.
Letting others erect upon sacred ground rarely works out; fences built by other hands are often only prisons in disguise. The best thing you can do if someone starts erecting upon personal property is to firmly place markers at boundaries edges and completely remove their creation from your territory.
Love gives a lot of things as benefits, but squatters rights to personal space is not one of the perks. Allowing someone to manipulate your boundaries for the sake of love guarantees that with each step the portion that belongs to you will shrink until it is in total control of a tyrant. Protecting your kingdom must come first if you hope to have any say about much of anything else.
Tour your property. Remove every scrap of debris as you travel along. Plant something pretty along your fence row. Make its center a place of perfect peace. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.".... Robert Frost, 1874-1963, American Poet and Pulitzer Prize Winner
Boundaries are important, truly understanding why they exist is vital to keeping your three feet of personal space as drama free as possible. Normally we build fences to keep out predators. Maintaining a safe distance is a wise thing, but true knowledge about all your fences and who built them is wiser still.
Letting others erect upon sacred ground rarely works out; fences built by other hands are often only prisons in disguise. The best thing you can do if someone starts erecting upon personal property is to firmly place markers at boundaries edges and completely remove their creation from your territory.
Love gives a lot of things as benefits, but squatters rights to personal space is not one of the perks. Allowing someone to manipulate your boundaries for the sake of love guarantees that with each step the portion that belongs to you will shrink until it is in total control of a tyrant. Protecting your kingdom must come first if you hope to have any say about much of anything else.
Tour your property. Remove every scrap of debris as you travel along. Plant something pretty along your fence row. Make its center a place of perfect peace. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Saturday, September 16, 2006
Trouble Free Listening
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.".... Frank Tyger
Really listening is an art form. Those who do it well are in very high demand. Hearing will never require the eating of crow, and no back peddling or damage control is ever necessary. If it's done correctly it eases sorrow of every sort at a price anyone could easily afford. The only thing that some people find really difficult is in fighting the urge to retell things meant for their ears alone.
Idle gossip can instantly change a purely positive healing experience into a negative weapon of soul destruction. The fact that it's so difficult to tell the difference between a good listener with pure motives and one with a self serving agenda makes it all the harder to trust anyone. A gossip never earns any respect; possessing a big mouth truly isn't a reason for celebration. Nobody likes a tattletale! But being a good listener... a trustworthy confidant... and a compassionate soul is its own reward.
Finding someone who truly understands is as priceless as discovering a bottomless treasure chest. A kindred spirit becomes a forever friend in the blink of an eye. The joy a good listener feels at being some comfort is just payment for any time spent as a sounding board. And they know by instinct that to retell a story that doesn't belong to them will earn a swift and sound karma- kick. Not my story to tell is a good solid answer to any inappropriate questions put to you by anyone. When you feel just a bit put out by even being asked it's always a pleasure to simply answer that their request for information will be passed on to the one with all the answers.
When someone erupts and begins venting all they really want is someone with open ears who won't detour the rant with unasked for advice. It's difficult to have all that emotion going into your ears and not hunger to help somehow, but silent concern is the most precious kind of input during eruptions. Later they may demand more attention and seek advice. But to offer anything besides open ears without an invitation is the fastest way to return them to total silence.
Really listen. Open your ears, and close your mouth and do some magic repair to someone else's balance. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.".... Frank Tyger
Really listening is an art form. Those who do it well are in very high demand. Hearing will never require the eating of crow, and no back peddling or damage control is ever necessary. If it's done correctly it eases sorrow of every sort at a price anyone could easily afford. The only thing that some people find really difficult is in fighting the urge to retell things meant for their ears alone.
Idle gossip can instantly change a purely positive healing experience into a negative weapon of soul destruction. The fact that it's so difficult to tell the difference between a good listener with pure motives and one with a self serving agenda makes it all the harder to trust anyone. A gossip never earns any respect; possessing a big mouth truly isn't a reason for celebration. Nobody likes a tattletale! But being a good listener... a trustworthy confidant... and a compassionate soul is its own reward.
Finding someone who truly understands is as priceless as discovering a bottomless treasure chest. A kindred spirit becomes a forever friend in the blink of an eye. The joy a good listener feels at being some comfort is just payment for any time spent as a sounding board. And they know by instinct that to retell a story that doesn't belong to them will earn a swift and sound karma- kick. Not my story to tell is a good solid answer to any inappropriate questions put to you by anyone. When you feel just a bit put out by even being asked it's always a pleasure to simply answer that their request for information will be passed on to the one with all the answers.
When someone erupts and begins venting all they really want is someone with open ears who won't detour the rant with unasked for advice. It's difficult to have all that emotion going into your ears and not hunger to help somehow, but silent concern is the most precious kind of input during eruptions. Later they may demand more attention and seek advice. But to offer anything besides open ears without an invitation is the fastest way to return them to total silence.
Really listen. Open your ears, and close your mouth and do some magic repair to someone else's balance. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Friday, September 15, 2006
The Real Finish
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits.".... Richard Nixon
The attempt is everything in this awesome game of life. Win, lose, or draw... giving it our best shot is always the wisest way to travel. The momentum it takes to struggle against the odds can carry us on through the next battle if we coast on its gathered speed.
Accepting losses as if they mean the end of the line gives much more to any single defeat than it will ever take on its own merit. We are only truly defeated if we do not rise up just one more time than we are knocked down.
Let the thought of it being that simple irritate you upright. I have found this to be a simple, yet effective remedy to playing the helpless victim. Surly somewhere inside of you there is enough moxie to manage just one more rising, especially with the alternative being such a bleak pointless journey.
The real finish happens when we go belly-up, and death is the only thing that is ever going to make me lay where I fall. What use is it to waste such a precious thing as a one time only ticket to ride this beautiful train on a journey we each get to pilot. Spending it on your back in the dirt is criminal.
Getting knocked down is mandatory, everyone falls... staying prone is voluntary. Get up just one more time, even if you have to do it again and again and again. I refuse to count my knock-downs as knock-outs, and you should too. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits.".... Richard Nixon
The attempt is everything in this awesome game of life. Win, lose, or draw... giving it our best shot is always the wisest way to travel. The momentum it takes to struggle against the odds can carry us on through the next battle if we coast on its gathered speed.
Accepting losses as if they mean the end of the line gives much more to any single defeat than it will ever take on its own merit. We are only truly defeated if we do not rise up just one more time than we are knocked down.
Let the thought of it being that simple irritate you upright. I have found this to be a simple, yet effective remedy to playing the helpless victim. Surly somewhere inside of you there is enough moxie to manage just one more rising, especially with the alternative being such a bleak pointless journey.
The real finish happens when we go belly-up, and death is the only thing that is ever going to make me lay where I fall. What use is it to waste such a precious thing as a one time only ticket to ride this beautiful train on a journey we each get to pilot. Spending it on your back in the dirt is criminal.
Getting knocked down is mandatory, everyone falls... staying prone is voluntary. Get up just one more time, even if you have to do it again and again and again. I refuse to count my knock-downs as knock-outs, and you should too. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Thursday, September 14, 2006
Compared To What?
TODAY'S QUOTE:
When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard,' I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?'.... Sydney J. Harris
The only comparative to life is death; one takes much effort, the other none at all. Life and death are both thrust upon us. Being alive is not a choice we make, it's a direct result of our parents choices. But really living certainly is a personal choice of the greatest magnitude.
Life offers so many possibilities, but too few of us really tap very deeply into its alternatives. Many people just take what they're dished up then complain about being short changed. But most of our limitations are set by us then reinforced by fear.
Self-made prisons have real walls, few windows, and a very small door. What we don't always realize is the key is clutched in our hand. Using it takes courage. But if we never even admit that we possess a way out then escape is impossible. We victimize ourselves and too often blame others for our incarceration.
Live fully demands that we don't use the blame game as a crutch to lean upon. Someone else may have created a situation that has you pinned down , but if you remain there some of the fault belongs to you. Blame just slows you down. Don't be afraid to really live. Earn the scars that set you free. No matter what got you down... no matter who tried to hold you there... let the getting up and the staying that way truly belong to you. Think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
When I hear somebody sigh, 'Life is hard,' I am always tempted to ask, 'Compared to what?'.... Sydney J. Harris
The only comparative to life is death; one takes much effort, the other none at all. Life and death are both thrust upon us. Being alive is not a choice we make, it's a direct result of our parents choices. But really living certainly is a personal choice of the greatest magnitude.
Life offers so many possibilities, but too few of us really tap very deeply into its alternatives. Many people just take what they're dished up then complain about being short changed. But most of our limitations are set by us then reinforced by fear.
Self-made prisons have real walls, few windows, and a very small door. What we don't always realize is the key is clutched in our hand. Using it takes courage. But if we never even admit that we possess a way out then escape is impossible. We victimize ourselves and too often blame others for our incarceration.
Live fully demands that we don't use the blame game as a crutch to lean upon. Someone else may have created a situation that has you pinned down , but if you remain there some of the fault belongs to you. Blame just slows you down. Don't be afraid to really live. Earn the scars that set you free. No matter what got you down... no matter who tried to hold you there... let the getting up and the staying that way truly belong to you. Think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Playing
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Play is as essential to the aged as it is to the young. I count that day lost when I am not moved to tears or laughter, but even more if I have not played.".... George Sheehan in "Going the Distance"
The art of play is limitless in its possibilities. We are all born with pro like abilities, knowing how to play is one of our natural birthrights. The first toys we possess are fingers and toes, but we quickly learn that everything has the capacity of being a plaything.
Over time our toys get more complex to continue challenging our mind in equal measure with its development, but if we are wise we never forget how to play. Advanced age should not be so solemn that laughter cannot find an outlet. Glee heals from the inside out and longevity usually means more wounding's.
The natural bandages are always the best. Play is God given medication to use as needed for instant relief of whatever ails us. Why so many of us leave it behind as we age is a mystery. If you have misplaced your playfulness go looking for it before its too late. A life without laughter is a poor imitation of what is possible, and a true waste of a God given gift. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Play is as essential to the aged as it is to the young. I count that day lost when I am not moved to tears or laughter, but even more if I have not played.".... George Sheehan in "Going the Distance"
The art of play is limitless in its possibilities. We are all born with pro like abilities, knowing how to play is one of our natural birthrights. The first toys we possess are fingers and toes, but we quickly learn that everything has the capacity of being a plaything.
Over time our toys get more complex to continue challenging our mind in equal measure with its development, but if we are wise we never forget how to play. Advanced age should not be so solemn that laughter cannot find an outlet. Glee heals from the inside out and longevity usually means more wounding's.
The natural bandages are always the best. Play is God given medication to use as needed for instant relief of whatever ails us. Why so many of us leave it behind as we age is a mystery. If you have misplaced your playfulness go looking for it before its too late. A life without laughter is a poor imitation of what is possible, and a true waste of a God given gift. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Monday, September 11, 2006
The Next Step
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"As long as you believe what you're doing is meaningful, you can cut through fear and exhaustion and take the next step.".... Arlene Blum
Having a purpose inspires a much greater energy level than we normally possess. If you doubt it just look around at anyone who has one. Hell, a blind person could clearly envision this just by using their ears. Have you ever noticed the way someone walks when they know where they are headed? You can hear the firm tap, tap, tap of their heels as they march happily along. You'll never hear a person with a purpose dragging their feet. But the aimless among us just shuffle along... to bored and uninspired to alter their purpose or their speed of travel.
That is a primitive, yet perfect example of the way having a purpose fills us with pep well beyond the norm. Steps are firmer and have a bounce that seems to gather energy and deliver it back to them. Knowing where you are going truly makes a huge difference in the vitality you possess for any given task.
If what you are doing is meaningful then whatever added zip a purpose inspires is magnified by the measure of good that can come of its success. The more people it will benefit the more zing it brings, manufacturing strength as it goes in the most natural fashion.
The faith in its worthiness adds fuel to the fire too, building a furnace to fuel all actions. Having a purpose just builds one positive on top of another until it forges a human dynamo with an agenda. Power up on something worthy. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"As long as you believe what you're doing is meaningful, you can cut through fear and exhaustion and take the next step.".... Arlene Blum
Having a purpose inspires a much greater energy level than we normally possess. If you doubt it just look around at anyone who has one. Hell, a blind person could clearly envision this just by using their ears. Have you ever noticed the way someone walks when they know where they are headed? You can hear the firm tap, tap, tap of their heels as they march happily along. You'll never hear a person with a purpose dragging their feet. But the aimless among us just shuffle along... to bored and uninspired to alter their purpose or their speed of travel.
That is a primitive, yet perfect example of the way having a purpose fills us with pep well beyond the norm. Steps are firmer and have a bounce that seems to gather energy and deliver it back to them. Knowing where you are going truly makes a huge difference in the vitality you possess for any given task.
If what you are doing is meaningful then whatever added zip a purpose inspires is magnified by the measure of good that can come of its success. The more people it will benefit the more zing it brings, manufacturing strength as it goes in the most natural fashion.
The faith in its worthiness adds fuel to the fire too, building a furnace to fuel all actions. Having a purpose just builds one positive on top of another until it forges a human dynamo with an agenda. Power up on something worthy. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Sunday, September 10, 2006
Applaud Yourself
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"When you are able to applaud yourself, it is much easier to applaud others.".... Denis Waitley
Any positive is much easier to dispense if you have it on hand and know the benefits firsthand. Selling what you truly believe in is almost effortless and belief in your own worth begins with worthy actions. And any success at something worthwhile deserves a bit of praise. There is no shame involved, although we often add it to the equation.
Encouragement should begin at home, but it rarely ever does. We criticize ourselves more than we ever congratulate. And most of us are much harder on ourselves than we ever are on anyone else. Why we bend over backwards to excuse things in other people that we condemn in ourselves is a mystery to me. Giving at least the same measure of respect to our own efforts seems a much wiser formula to make the world a better place.
At first glance patting our own back may seem to be a tool of conceit, but if our intentions are pure and our deeds worthy then ego isn't involved. Egotism is defined as: 1- An exaggerated opinion of your own importance. 2- An inflated feeling of pride in your superiority to others. Saying well-done to yourself validates your own efforts... it's not the same thing at all. Validation feels good and inspires even more effort to deserve another dose. A dedicated know-it-all doesn't have to do more than breathe to think themselves worthy of praise, while everyone else must work their way toward their own high fives.
Egomaniacs are abnormal. No amount of praise ever satisfies their cravings. Right-minded people hesitate to self-praise for fear of being thought to be in the same class. But a person with any class at all would never cross that line. Giving yourself a pat or two makes a real difference in our understanding of how well any encouraging words aide in the quality of this journey. A bit of respect given to yourself makes us more respectful of others.
Paying it forward is the next step. Once centered we humans can create miracles with the hands up we give one another. But it all begins with what we give ourselves. Applaud when you deserve it and do so as loudly as you would for anyone else. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"When you are able to applaud yourself, it is much easier to applaud others.".... Denis Waitley
Any positive is much easier to dispense if you have it on hand and know the benefits firsthand. Selling what you truly believe in is almost effortless and belief in your own worth begins with worthy actions. And any success at something worthwhile deserves a bit of praise. There is no shame involved, although we often add it to the equation.
Encouragement should begin at home, but it rarely ever does. We criticize ourselves more than we ever congratulate. And most of us are much harder on ourselves than we ever are on anyone else. Why we bend over backwards to excuse things in other people that we condemn in ourselves is a mystery to me. Giving at least the same measure of respect to our own efforts seems a much wiser formula to make the world a better place.
At first glance patting our own back may seem to be a tool of conceit, but if our intentions are pure and our deeds worthy then ego isn't involved. Egotism is defined as: 1- An exaggerated opinion of your own importance. 2- An inflated feeling of pride in your superiority to others. Saying well-done to yourself validates your own efforts... it's not the same thing at all. Validation feels good and inspires even more effort to deserve another dose. A dedicated know-it-all doesn't have to do more than breathe to think themselves worthy of praise, while everyone else must work their way toward their own high fives.
Egomaniacs are abnormal. No amount of praise ever satisfies their cravings. Right-minded people hesitate to self-praise for fear of being thought to be in the same class. But a person with any class at all would never cross that line. Giving yourself a pat or two makes a real difference in our understanding of how well any encouraging words aide in the quality of this journey. A bit of respect given to yourself makes us more respectful of others.
Paying it forward is the next step. Once centered we humans can create miracles with the hands up we give one another. But it all begins with what we give ourselves. Applaud when you deserve it and do so as loudly as you would for anyone else. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Saturday, September 09, 2006
Endless Echoes
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.".... Mother Teresa
The echo you leave behind is a true legacy to everyone encountered during a lifetime. It can either be sweet or bitter... fast or slow... harsh or gentle. Its flavor, tempo, and stroking style is always hand-picked by the speaker.
Kind words are easy to say and even easier to hear. They caress the weary. They lift up the downhearted. And long after you're gone they keep gifting the listener over and over as their memory replays them as needed for comfort or encouragement.
But it's not only the ones who hear that benefit; the echo lives on in you too. The joy received when positive input makes a difference to someone you touch is beyond description. And any negative orations inhabit you just as securely. If your life is somehow bitter look at the spices you're using to flavor your speech and alter it.
Words are powerful tools for good or ill. They continue stroking or kicking the ones they're aimed toward. Yet, too often people just let them erupt and spew without any forethought. When you hurt it doesn't ease your ache to inspire pain in someone else. And many innocent hearts have been shredded in that fashion.
Careless word use cause scars you might never even notice that you inflict. Slashing wounds that take years to heal, if they ever mend at all, are rarely the intention of any right-minded person. A lot of things said would be much better left as passing thoughts. Thinking before speaking is much more humane than simply opening the trap and letting the bull-shit monster loose upon humanity.
Echo with vibrations that sooth your own soul and wounding anyone else will be impossible. Reverberate through time and space long after you're gone with a sound you would be eager to hear over and over. Touch gently the heart strings you strum and be a symphony in perfect pitch. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.".... Mother Teresa
The echo you leave behind is a true legacy to everyone encountered during a lifetime. It can either be sweet or bitter... fast or slow... harsh or gentle. Its flavor, tempo, and stroking style is always hand-picked by the speaker.
Kind words are easy to say and even easier to hear. They caress the weary. They lift up the downhearted. And long after you're gone they keep gifting the listener over and over as their memory replays them as needed for comfort or encouragement.
But it's not only the ones who hear that benefit; the echo lives on in you too. The joy received when positive input makes a difference to someone you touch is beyond description. And any negative orations inhabit you just as securely. If your life is somehow bitter look at the spices you're using to flavor your speech and alter it.
Words are powerful tools for good or ill. They continue stroking or kicking the ones they're aimed toward. Yet, too often people just let them erupt and spew without any forethought. When you hurt it doesn't ease your ache to inspire pain in someone else. And many innocent hearts have been shredded in that fashion.
Careless word use cause scars you might never even notice that you inflict. Slashing wounds that take years to heal, if they ever mend at all, are rarely the intention of any right-minded person. A lot of things said would be much better left as passing thoughts. Thinking before speaking is much more humane than simply opening the trap and letting the bull-shit monster loose upon humanity.
Echo with vibrations that sooth your own soul and wounding anyone else will be impossible. Reverberate through time and space long after you're gone with a sound you would be eager to hear over and over. Touch gently the heart strings you strum and be a symphony in perfect pitch. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Friday, September 08, 2006
Letting Go
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"To hold, you must first open your hand. Let go.".... Tao Te Ching
Moving on and gaining a firm grip on the future requires letting go of the past. Taking along all the good memories and lessons learned is wise packing for the journey ahead. But clutching onto what once was so tightly that it keeps you centered in a reality that no longer exists robs the future of any promise.
Truly owning whichever moment you inhabit demands your full attention. The past already gave up its treasure or did its damage. Carry the treasure and let the scars heal. There is no other way to get on with the business of living than to go forward with the firmest steps you can manage.
I call it walking wounded. Traveling on in spite of the damage life does takes courage. Hell, giving up is easy. Not trying takes no effort at all, just do absolutely nothing and you will succeed at that goaless existence. Doing your best can be brutal, but each step forward strengthens our weakened spirits.
A warrior's soul can be found in the most unlikely of places. Mice learn to roar if given enough reason. Ducklings become swans with a bit of encouragement. The downtrodden can find the stamina to overcome whatever is chocking them lifeless if they can only incubate just one glimmer of hope.
The only certain thing about life is its uncertainty. What was... changes into what is... then continues evolving into what will be by our own design or simply by default. Either we choose or life chooses for us... and not always wisely. Fashion your future to fit naturally in a pattern uniquely your own. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"To hold, you must first open your hand. Let go.".... Tao Te Ching
Moving on and gaining a firm grip on the future requires letting go of the past. Taking along all the good memories and lessons learned is wise packing for the journey ahead. But clutching onto what once was so tightly that it keeps you centered in a reality that no longer exists robs the future of any promise.
Truly owning whichever moment you inhabit demands your full attention. The past already gave up its treasure or did its damage. Carry the treasure and let the scars heal. There is no other way to get on with the business of living than to go forward with the firmest steps you can manage.
I call it walking wounded. Traveling on in spite of the damage life does takes courage. Hell, giving up is easy. Not trying takes no effort at all, just do absolutely nothing and you will succeed at that goaless existence. Doing your best can be brutal, but each step forward strengthens our weakened spirits.
A warrior's soul can be found in the most unlikely of places. Mice learn to roar if given enough reason. Ducklings become swans with a bit of encouragement. The downtrodden can find the stamina to overcome whatever is chocking them lifeless if they can only incubate just one glimmer of hope.
The only certain thing about life is its uncertainty. What was... changes into what is... then continues evolving into what will be by our own design or simply by default. Either we choose or life chooses for us... and not always wisely. Fashion your future to fit naturally in a pattern uniquely your own. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Thorns With Roses
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"I am thankful that thorns have roses.".... Alphonse Karr
What a clever way of putting a delightful spin on a negative. I'm much more than grateful that there are roses scattered among the thorns of life. Trouble is certain, but allowing it to overshadow the joy is self-defeating. Life is magical. Each moment has such promise if we just make an effort to embrace its true potential.
Finding the beauty in the smallest of things takes strict attention to detail. Refuse to put all your focus on the negative when there are so many positives littering the landscape. Bad does exist and its agony is horrid sometimes; that much is true. Humans tend to forget that even the most difficult of situations can have hidden benefits. Grey clouds possess the most breathtaking of silver linings, but walking head down will only keep your gaze fixed firmly upon dirt.
Hard lessons are opportunities for triumph. Any situation that knocks you down will afford you the strength and determination needed to rise up even stronger from the battlefield. Your mindset has to cease whining, "why me" and replace that lame question with a firm demand of, "empower me". The lessons will be clear as day once your eyes are free of tears and your mind is free of self-pity. True wisdom is hard earned and should always be highly valued.
A warrior does not win every time he fights. But a valiant warrior never backs down from a challenge even if the odds are against him. He knows the thorns well, but recognizes the flowers with equal measure. Focus on the blooms and down play the doom. Nothing is gained by making a bad situation worse by overemphasizing its importance.
Obstacles are something we must deliberately overcome, not something to be overcome by willingly. Going belly-up exposes our tenderest parts and invites attack. Remember that a leisurely stroll through the roses is well worth the struggle past the thorns. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"I am thankful that thorns have roses.".... Alphonse Karr
What a clever way of putting a delightful spin on a negative. I'm much more than grateful that there are roses scattered among the thorns of life. Trouble is certain, but allowing it to overshadow the joy is self-defeating. Life is magical. Each moment has such promise if we just make an effort to embrace its true potential.
Finding the beauty in the smallest of things takes strict attention to detail. Refuse to put all your focus on the negative when there are so many positives littering the landscape. Bad does exist and its agony is horrid sometimes; that much is true. Humans tend to forget that even the most difficult of situations can have hidden benefits. Grey clouds possess the most breathtaking of silver linings, but walking head down will only keep your gaze fixed firmly upon dirt.
Hard lessons are opportunities for triumph. Any situation that knocks you down will afford you the strength and determination needed to rise up even stronger from the battlefield. Your mindset has to cease whining, "why me" and replace that lame question with a firm demand of, "empower me". The lessons will be clear as day once your eyes are free of tears and your mind is free of self-pity. True wisdom is hard earned and should always be highly valued.
A warrior does not win every time he fights. But a valiant warrior never backs down from a challenge even if the odds are against him. He knows the thorns well, but recognizes the flowers with equal measure. Focus on the blooms and down play the doom. Nothing is gained by making a bad situation worse by overemphasizing its importance.
Obstacles are something we must deliberately overcome, not something to be overcome by willingly. Going belly-up exposes our tenderest parts and invites attack. Remember that a leisurely stroll through the roses is well worth the struggle past the thorns. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Realistic Accommodations
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"Don't cling to anything and don't reject anything. Let come what comes, and accommodate yourself to that, whatever it is. If good mental images arise, that is fine. If bad mental images arise, that is fine, too. Look on all of it as equal, and make yourself comfortable with whatever happens. Don't fight with what you experience, just observe it all mindfully.".... Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, "Mindfulness in Plain English"
Facing reality in a mindful way takes practice. It is easy to let panic be your first reaction, but if you think of mindless fear as an internal terrorist it is much easier to disarm. The first step to creating calmer thinking is to not only observe what is happening around you, but also be aware of your reactions. Healthy mind habits evolve through time and exercise.
Being reactionary inspires extreme over-reactions to the slightest stimuli. Extremist's are terrorists too. Giving control to any radical is begging for disaster. Leaning too far either way is just not a healthy posture if balance is the pose you seek.
Give only what each situation demands without adding any more drama than it already possesses. Seeing all your emotions as valid is not an invitation to let them run amok. Feeling something is NOT the same as wallowing in it. The former honors its existence, the latter donates your life to its service.
Viewing every emotion as equal in importance levels the playing field in the most natural fashion. Equilibrium cannot be achieved without measured steps in the right direction. Lead yourself to safe shores with a map drawn to fit your true nature. But before you begin drafting be sure to know what is really true and what is merely a old out of fashion costumed role that someone else assigned to you to suit their own agenda.
Symmetry is created by seeing the big picture and plotting a course that gets you where you want to be with the least permanent damage being done. If you take time and use true knowledge to prepare realistic accommodations then the fit is flawless. If not you may have as much trouble assimilating yourself inside the boundaries of your mind as an elephant would have fitting inside a bird cage.
Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.
-Arthur Somers Roche
Here's a bonus quote... it just fit the moment. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"Don't cling to anything and don't reject anything. Let come what comes, and accommodate yourself to that, whatever it is. If good mental images arise, that is fine. If bad mental images arise, that is fine, too. Look on all of it as equal, and make yourself comfortable with whatever happens. Don't fight with what you experience, just observe it all mindfully.".... Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, "Mindfulness in Plain English"
Facing reality in a mindful way takes practice. It is easy to let panic be your first reaction, but if you think of mindless fear as an internal terrorist it is much easier to disarm. The first step to creating calmer thinking is to not only observe what is happening around you, but also be aware of your reactions. Healthy mind habits evolve through time and exercise.
Being reactionary inspires extreme over-reactions to the slightest stimuli. Extremist's are terrorists too. Giving control to any radical is begging for disaster. Leaning too far either way is just not a healthy posture if balance is the pose you seek.
Give only what each situation demands without adding any more drama than it already possesses. Seeing all your emotions as valid is not an invitation to let them run amok. Feeling something is NOT the same as wallowing in it. The former honors its existence, the latter donates your life to its service.
Viewing every emotion as equal in importance levels the playing field in the most natural fashion. Equilibrium cannot be achieved without measured steps in the right direction. Lead yourself to safe shores with a map drawn to fit your true nature. But before you begin drafting be sure to know what is really true and what is merely a old out of fashion costumed role that someone else assigned to you to suit their own agenda.
Symmetry is created by seeing the big picture and plotting a course that gets you where you want to be with the least permanent damage being done. If you take time and use true knowledge to prepare realistic accommodations then the fit is flawless. If not you may have as much trouble assimilating yourself inside the boundaries of your mind as an elephant would have fitting inside a bird cage.
Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.
-Arthur Somers Roche
Here's a bonus quote... it just fit the moment. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Sunday, September 03, 2006
Internal Remodeling
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as in being able to remake ourselves.".... Mahatma Gandhi
The ability to redecorate our world from the inside out is every humans birthright. The use or misuse of that power is voluntary. Some never use it at all while other's are in a constant remodel mode. How it is utilized and what frame of mind is involved either enriches your life with a peace beyond imagining or inspires a frantic search to be satisfied.
I know people who use the power to constantly learn new things that benefit every facet of their being. Their use is totally positive and the results are always magical. Constant reaching for knowledge and understanding is the best possible use of an ability tailor made for the human animal.
I know others who spend a lifetime in changing their surroundings... moving from place to place... redecorating... rearranging furniture in an endless search to find or create a comfort zone that always evades them somehow. Their dissatisfaction shows in everything they touch. They become instantly bored with whatever they possess in such a fashion that it soon possesses them.
The negative is just as forceful as the positive can be; power misused is still power and it can slam you down or lift you up if it gains control. The choice is up to us whether we use that power or it uses us. A birthright should be a treasured gift. Unwrap it carefully and use it in a way that honors both it and you. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as in being able to remake ourselves.".... Mahatma Gandhi
The ability to redecorate our world from the inside out is every humans birthright. The use or misuse of that power is voluntary. Some never use it at all while other's are in a constant remodel mode. How it is utilized and what frame of mind is involved either enriches your life with a peace beyond imagining or inspires a frantic search to be satisfied.
I know people who use the power to constantly learn new things that benefit every facet of their being. Their use is totally positive and the results are always magical. Constant reaching for knowledge and understanding is the best possible use of an ability tailor made for the human animal.
I know others who spend a lifetime in changing their surroundings... moving from place to place... redecorating... rearranging furniture in an endless search to find or create a comfort zone that always evades them somehow. Their dissatisfaction shows in everything they touch. They become instantly bored with whatever they possess in such a fashion that it soon possesses them.
The negative is just as forceful as the positive can be; power misused is still power and it can slam you down or lift you up if it gains control. The choice is up to us whether we use that power or it uses us. A birthright should be a treasured gift. Unwrap it carefully and use it in a way that honors both it and you. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Saturday, September 02, 2006
Time Urges
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"I urge you not to throw away time, for it's swift as an arrow, fast as a stream. Distraction is entirely due to lack of concentration; stupidity and blindness are caused by lack of true knowledge.".... Yung-Ming, "Five Houses of Zen"
Time is an enemy to us all if we constantly calculate it in one form or another. It waits for no man, but passes in a steady flow even if we stand frozen in some portion of it. A day is only so long... a lifetime limited... everything is replaced or renewed somehow and if we do not go with the flow it erases us without a backward glance.
Measurements in life are confining in the extreme. It is not like a recipe where you add so much of this and that and then cook it till it is done to perfection. Life is imperfect in the most perfect way. Uneven slices... jagged pieces... there just is NOT a follow the dots, cut between the lines pattern to this living experience. The only thing you own in life is the moment you are in at any given time. Own enough of them and your life is full. Waste too many and its not.
Do not dwell on time past or things yet to come and ignore the here and now. Give all you have to each moment and it will return the favor. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
"I urge you not to throw away time, for it's swift as an arrow, fast as a stream. Distraction is entirely due to lack of concentration; stupidity and blindness are caused by lack of true knowledge.".... Yung-Ming, "Five Houses of Zen"
Time is an enemy to us all if we constantly calculate it in one form or another. It waits for no man, but passes in a steady flow even if we stand frozen in some portion of it. A day is only so long... a lifetime limited... everything is replaced or renewed somehow and if we do not go with the flow it erases us without a backward glance.
Measurements in life are confining in the extreme. It is not like a recipe where you add so much of this and that and then cook it till it is done to perfection. Life is imperfect in the most perfect way. Uneven slices... jagged pieces... there just is NOT a follow the dots, cut between the lines pattern to this living experience. The only thing you own in life is the moment you are in at any given time. Own enough of them and your life is full. Waste too many and its not.
Do not dwell on time past or things yet to come and ignore the here and now. Give all you have to each moment and it will return the favor. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then you decide!!!!
Friday, September 01, 2006
The Most Beautiful Discovery
TODAY'S QUOTE:
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.".... Elizabeth Foley
Friends not only grow separately in a natural human evolution, they also encourage healthy growth in one another as a vital part of true friendship. I know that it would have been much more difficult for me to broaden my horizons without the backing of people who truly understood me. And nobody on earth perceives who you really are better than a friend.
At times they have a much clearer view than even you do and are more objective. That can come in handy if utilized in the right fashion. Trust is vital and respect on both sides is the key that unlocks every door. Asking for or giving an honest opinion is effortless if you know that no matter what it will not strain the friendship in a negative way.
Unconditional love exists in its purest form between hand picked people who bond by choice. Duty-love holds too many negatives to support a relationship that will get you through the darkest of times.
A true pal never judges your actions in a one-sided, black or white fashion. Things are never that simple no matter who says otherwise. Fact is... a true friend does not judge at all. They may not agree with actions you take, but most times realize any negatives come from a desire to either soothe or smother some sort of personal agony.
Amigos of the best sort never wear masks when facing each other. They do not hide feelings or build walls to create a safe distance. There is no danger between people who are truly friends. But to have a true friend you have to be one. Too many are just the fair weather sort and no comfort at all in a downpour.
Life is brutal more often than we would choose if we were in charge of events. When you get blindsided I bet the one you seek first is that one person who can give everything needed to help you get upright again. And if you are lucky they run just as quickly in your direction when wounded. Tell them how much of a difference they make in your life. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then YOU decide!!!!
"The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.".... Elizabeth Foley
Friends not only grow separately in a natural human evolution, they also encourage healthy growth in one another as a vital part of true friendship. I know that it would have been much more difficult for me to broaden my horizons without the backing of people who truly understood me. And nobody on earth perceives who you really are better than a friend.
At times they have a much clearer view than even you do and are more objective. That can come in handy if utilized in the right fashion. Trust is vital and respect on both sides is the key that unlocks every door. Asking for or giving an honest opinion is effortless if you know that no matter what it will not strain the friendship in a negative way.
Unconditional love exists in its purest form between hand picked people who bond by choice. Duty-love holds too many negatives to support a relationship that will get you through the darkest of times.
A true pal never judges your actions in a one-sided, black or white fashion. Things are never that simple no matter who says otherwise. Fact is... a true friend does not judge at all. They may not agree with actions you take, but most times realize any negatives come from a desire to either soothe or smother some sort of personal agony.
Amigos of the best sort never wear masks when facing each other. They do not hide feelings or build walls to create a safe distance. There is no danger between people who are truly friends. But to have a true friend you have to be one. Too many are just the fair weather sort and no comfort at all in a downpour.
Life is brutal more often than we would choose if we were in charge of events. When you get blindsided I bet the one you seek first is that one person who can give everything needed to help you get upright again. And if you are lucky they run just as quickly in your direction when wounded. Tell them how much of a difference they make in your life. And as always.... think about it.... let it ride.... then YOU decide!!!!
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