TODAY'S QUOTE:
Find your center and stay there: it will allow you to live your life to its maximum. Barbara Ann Kipfer
We're often so busy simply reacting to circumstances, performing in someone else's drama, or creating our own to have any spare time for self-examination. But take my advice and pump the brakes, slow your roll, and get a firm grip on what's truly vital to your quality of life. Really living demands that you have a clue about who you are, what you want and how to achieve peace and happiness.
You'll never find it inside someone else's pocket; digging there may only compound your problems. It doesn't reside next door. A new mate or a mate that belongs to someone else doesn't hold the magic key to your kingdom. By all means if you're truly unhappy with someone move on... no sense in your hunger for more causing mass starvation inside your own household. What you give to someone else shouldn't be stolen from anyone. Get free, release them too, and continue your journey without shame. But don't expect magic fairy dust to rain down and make you suddenly whole.
Doing the work and making it last is a long and painful evolution, but it's well worth the agony involved. A huge part of your repair and restoration demands that you dismantle and separate what's viable from what's not. That process will get you soul deep and there you'll find your core. That part of you has all the answers to any question you can dream of and it'll never put you in danger or convince you of a lie. You can rest there and look all around at all the bull-shit you've collected by default or by choice your whole lifetime long.
The sorting from this position isn't pain free, but there is instant comfort from a soul grateful for its rescue and a steely determination to not reload yourself with more than can be carried in comfort. It's here that you learn the real magic of choices made verses simply accepting whatever others choose for you to medicate their own wounds. If you refuse to move from your center then nobody can push your boundaries or bully you into choices you'd never make otherwise. And you'll realize that you don't have to wound others to stay safe. Take care of your soul and it will gently take care of you. And that awakening and validation is for you, happens to you, and changes you in ways you never dreamed possible. To earn the right to live large we must first become small and grow from a position of soul-strength. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
Saturday, July 23, 2016
Saturday, July 09, 2016
SWALLOWING TRUTH
TODAY'S QUOTE:
The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it... Flannery O'Connor
Human nature is a roller coaster ride that we often have to claw our way off of to make any sense of our truth. The urge to ride endlessly, screaming excuses for actions that we'd rather not face up to won't make them disappear. The fact is the longer we ride the harder it is to learn what we must and move on. We may hunger for other people to understand, but nobody ever does until we stop explaining and accept our flaws. Nothing can change for the better until we face and correct our own missteps. If we want others to see us as the person we've evolved into then we first have to clean up all of our left over messes.
We may know the why... we may see where we went terribly wrong... we may realize that our intentions were never to wound others, but until we show real remorse then nobody else will give a rats ass about any of the mitigating factors we care so much about. An excuse, (even a valid one) is not an alibi. All of your, "why I" information has a place and time to be examined. Tell it too soon and you'll be doomed to retell it over and over. And the more it's said the less valid it seems.
"The season for reasons", comes after all cards are face up on the table... nothing up anyone's sleeve... everyone voluntarily accepting their fair share of both the credit and the blame. If everyone isn't willing or able to shoulder what truly belongs to them then do your part without demanding they comply and save your why's for your own understanding. You have no real power over anyone else. There aren't enough words or ways to say them to force a change of anyone else's mind or heart. And that's okay!
If you're not sitting solitary once the table time truth or dare session ends then the why's can visit for a bit. But don't ever expect anyone else to care as much as you do. The how come you acted badly may have been caused by a spark somebody else ignited. But in the end you had a choice between feeding the fire or putting it out. Your truth rests soul deep and is better used for self-study than it is for a bargaining tool to gain forgiveness or understanding from others.
Become as strong as possible... as independent as possible... as self-aware as possible then you won't be tempted to use all the countless whys as the crutch you lean upon. When we reach past the age of reason then it's up to us to stop whining about our bad luck or shitty beginning and find our true potential and live up to it. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it... Flannery O'Connor
Human nature is a roller coaster ride that we often have to claw our way off of to make any sense of our truth. The urge to ride endlessly, screaming excuses for actions that we'd rather not face up to won't make them disappear. The fact is the longer we ride the harder it is to learn what we must and move on. We may hunger for other people to understand, but nobody ever does until we stop explaining and accept our flaws. Nothing can change for the better until we face and correct our own missteps. If we want others to see us as the person we've evolved into then we first have to clean up all of our left over messes.
We may know the why... we may see where we went terribly wrong... we may realize that our intentions were never to wound others, but until we show real remorse then nobody else will give a rats ass about any of the mitigating factors we care so much about. An excuse, (even a valid one) is not an alibi. All of your, "why I" information has a place and time to be examined. Tell it too soon and you'll be doomed to retell it over and over. And the more it's said the less valid it seems.
"The season for reasons", comes after all cards are face up on the table... nothing up anyone's sleeve... everyone voluntarily accepting their fair share of both the credit and the blame. If everyone isn't willing or able to shoulder what truly belongs to them then do your part without demanding they comply and save your why's for your own understanding. You have no real power over anyone else. There aren't enough words or ways to say them to force a change of anyone else's mind or heart. And that's okay!
If you're not sitting solitary once the table time truth or dare session ends then the why's can visit for a bit. But don't ever expect anyone else to care as much as you do. The how come you acted badly may have been caused by a spark somebody else ignited. But in the end you had a choice between feeding the fire or putting it out. Your truth rests soul deep and is better used for self-study than it is for a bargaining tool to gain forgiveness or understanding from others.
Become as strong as possible... as independent as possible... as self-aware as possible then you won't be tempted to use all the countless whys as the crutch you lean upon. When we reach past the age of reason then it's up to us to stop whining about our bad luck or shitty beginning and find our true potential and live up to it. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
Sunday, July 03, 2016
GAINING WISDOM
TODAY'S QUOTE:
One's first step in wisdom is to question everything - and one's last is to come to terms with everything. - George C. Lichtenberg
That's a fact! It doesn't matter whether it's a slow dawning, or a sudden awakening; however you get to the starting line what happens next is always the same. You realize that some of the most important things you don't know are basic things about yourself. What you really want... what you truly feel... what you think and believe are mostly as yet undiscovered mysteries. Your mind is awhirl with hummingbird notions that won't stop their endless rotation. Your heart is full of pain and longing, with old tired feelings trying to contain new ones that are struggling mightily for life. And your soul echoes with the raging storms that occupy every last inch of internal space you possess.
It can't be ignored. It won't be silenced. It tangles and gets more demanding for a ceasefire daily in a war that mostly started when your back was turned. The only way to make it stop is to validate it in a way that requires your own personal growth. Find what hurts the most, figure out why, understand its value, and answer every question it poses. Then move to the next ache again and again until all of the major agony is treated and only random sore spots remain. You're scarred for life, but you no longer bleed. And each blemish is a badge of courage, earned by a valiant warrior who triumphed even though they were walking wounded throughout the entire war.
Nobody can fix it for you. You may be a damsel in distress or a knight without a clue, but joining forces isn't the answer. Then you're both doomed to deal with twice the issues when the one's each of you possess were already too much to handle. Going to stand beside someone who's struggling in quicksand will only trap you both. You have to do the work yourself. Any true healing revolves around finding enough answers about who you really are to prevent you from being simply a reflection of who someone else needs you to be. God bless the battle that makes you whole. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
One's first step in wisdom is to question everything - and one's last is to come to terms with everything. - George C. Lichtenberg
That's a fact! It doesn't matter whether it's a slow dawning, or a sudden awakening; however you get to the starting line what happens next is always the same. You realize that some of the most important things you don't know are basic things about yourself. What you really want... what you truly feel... what you think and believe are mostly as yet undiscovered mysteries. Your mind is awhirl with hummingbird notions that won't stop their endless rotation. Your heart is full of pain and longing, with old tired feelings trying to contain new ones that are struggling mightily for life. And your soul echoes with the raging storms that occupy every last inch of internal space you possess.
It can't be ignored. It won't be silenced. It tangles and gets more demanding for a ceasefire daily in a war that mostly started when your back was turned. The only way to make it stop is to validate it in a way that requires your own personal growth. Find what hurts the most, figure out why, understand its value, and answer every question it poses. Then move to the next ache again and again until all of the major agony is treated and only random sore spots remain. You're scarred for life, but you no longer bleed. And each blemish is a badge of courage, earned by a valiant warrior who triumphed even though they were walking wounded throughout the entire war.
Nobody can fix it for you. You may be a damsel in distress or a knight without a clue, but joining forces isn't the answer. Then you're both doomed to deal with twice the issues when the one's each of you possess were already too much to handle. Going to stand beside someone who's struggling in quicksand will only trap you both. You have to do the work yourself. Any true healing revolves around finding enough answers about who you really are to prevent you from being simply a reflection of who someone else needs you to be. God bless the battle that makes you whole. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
Friday, July 01, 2016
REFUSE CAPTIVITY
TODAY'S QUOTE:
The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. - Mark Caine
This is such a brutal lesson. But if we don't struggle for freedom we become a hostage by default. All too often it's fear of the unknown that holds us firm in a place or situation that is harmful to us in one fashion or another. At times it's uncertainty of what we truly want that keeps us trapped. When that occurs we're much better served by simply flipping the script to examine what we don't want. Folks mostly always have an understanding of that when they may be confused about everything else. That's a good place to begin taking control of both our internal and external environments.
This lesson takes bravery we too often imagine we don't possess. But if the fear is ignored, the final reward will erase any doubt we ever had about breaking free. We each have the perfect right to be whomever we are without guilt. We needn't rip pieces of our heart out to fill in the empty places inside someone else. That never works, no matter our intentions.When you break yourself down to build someone else up then both foundations are just a puff of wind away from total collapse.
Be brave without malice. Be forgiving without blame. Be gentle without weakness. Be firm without spite. Be yourself without apology. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. - Mark Caine
This is such a brutal lesson. But if we don't struggle for freedom we become a hostage by default. All too often it's fear of the unknown that holds us firm in a place or situation that is harmful to us in one fashion or another. At times it's uncertainty of what we truly want that keeps us trapped. When that occurs we're much better served by simply flipping the script to examine what we don't want. Folks mostly always have an understanding of that when they may be confused about everything else. That's a good place to begin taking control of both our internal and external environments.
This lesson takes bravery we too often imagine we don't possess. But if the fear is ignored, the final reward will erase any doubt we ever had about breaking free. We each have the perfect right to be whomever we are without guilt. We needn't rip pieces of our heart out to fill in the empty places inside someone else. That never works, no matter our intentions.When you break yourself down to build someone else up then both foundations are just a puff of wind away from total collapse.
Be brave without malice. Be forgiving without blame. Be gentle without weakness. Be firm without spite. Be yourself without apology. Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!
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