Firey People

TODAY'S QUOTE:
"People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes."... Abigail Van Buren

Building a backfire ought to be left entirely up to firefighters. The possibility of saving a forest from flames is worth the risk of manipulating a serious problem to create a likely solution. They have the training, skill, and passion necessary for total success. They work as a team toward a common goal that makes the world a safer place. In the right hands fighting fire with fire is a tool of salvation. They are firefighters creating positive from a negative... not fiery people who take a negative to its very limit and set fire to any positive along their self determined path toward self destruction.

All of us will encounter fiery people, and our goal ought to be to dampen their flames enough to save ourselves as much of a scorching as humanly possible. They will start a fire at our feet for the sole purpose of making us their arson accomplice. What we do next determines the height of the flames or the extinguishing of the same. Fighting fire with fire should be left to the pro's.    But using the same tactic inside the boundaries of any human relationship never works in the intended fashion. In fact it truly can and most often does "backfire" in the most destructive ways.

Two wrongs will never equal a right, no matter how carefully you write the equation. Spiteful actions can quickly spiral into dangerous over-reactions, causing eruptions that spoil any landscape it flows across . And later is often much toooo late to fix anything broken on even the shortest trip down Retaliation Lane. Take the high road, away from the flames... for safety sake.

Refuse to toss more debris on the blaze and come daybreak there just may be some treasure worth salvaging amid the rubble. A lone moment spent acting out creates a fire that demands huge slices of time wasted, and energy better used in some other fashion besides arson management.  Dealing with hot spots continues long after the main blaze is extinguished and careful attention must be directed to that tiresome endeavor. Our best use of an uncomfortable moment is to watch it pass without adding any insanity to something you can dismiss as unimportant once it disappears from view.  Think about it... let it ride... then decide!!!!