Love Lessons

Today's Quote:
"Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want." Martha Beck

This is true to an extent we cannot even begin to imagine in our youth. All we know then is that having a broken heart seems fatal. By the time we hit our prime heartache becomes a way of life for some; more of the same is all that's expected... so of course that's mostly what is received.

Standing at the bus stop to catch a plane isn't sane behavior. Retaking the exact steps you've always taken then wondering why you end up in the same place rates about equal on the "DUH" meter. Repetitive motions just deepen our ruts. We've all been guilty of that in one form or another... recognizing our folly is the only avenue toward an alternate route.

Recognizing heartache as the wisest teacher takes some deep thought; thinking is next to impossible when you're so busy feeling. I figure that's why it takes us all so long to get a real clue. It's a catch 22... a blessing and a burden... pain that teaches pleasure.

Any suffering in my lifetime has turned out to be the cost paid for half of the island my soul-mate and I inhabit in perfect peace. I didn't always view my agony as part of the reward. Joy taught me the real value of pain.

If I'd never been abused I wouldn't rest so comfy in my treasured role. If there had never been screams would I value this blessed silence so completely. If having a jailer taught me anything precious its how glorious freedom feels. If I'd never known true agony how much lesser would be my joy???

One taught me what I don't want... the other gave me everything I imagined and more. Bad love shrinks what it touched. Good love expands, always leaving enough room for growth. I cannot thank my abuser for what he took but I thank God that some measure of value came from my pain. Brutal lessons pay hefty dividends, but only if you alter direction and pull out of the 'DUH' lane. Think about it... let it ride... then YOU decide!!!