JUST A THOUGHT: Things of real and lasting value do not cost
green paper produced in a factory. Real happiness cannot be
manufactured, but it can be grown. The only way to find what we seek is to reach our core... tend it gently... and harvest its bounty. GLENDA ALEXANDER
Donating your free-will for the price of love is always a heart-breaking, soul-shrinking rip off. Handing over something truly precious to gain what is falsely portrayed as priceless is a brutal life-lesson. Don't get me wrong... I know true love exists. I also know that real love will never shrink you until you fit snuggly up under someone else's thumb. If you're made less in any fashion then think a bit deeper before you sign on the dotted line. If you use less heart and more brain you'll have a more than fair chance of avoiding being left emotionally bankrupt no matter what happens.
The beginning is where the tone is set for all that follows afterward. Dropping the ball during the dating negotiations is easy enough to do. You forget one plus one makes two. In the haze of rosy delight all you notice is the answer and the equation is totally disregarded. Love is in the air... hearts and flowers blind us into believing that giving our all will finally guarantee our happiness. I speak from dire past experience when I say that's a fairytale of the most dangerous sort.
Lasting happiness doesn't come from the outside; we don't absorb it from the atmosphere. There isn't a patch we can wear... no injection to get... or any pill we can swallow will reproduce what our soul hungers for. There are people who bring joy to our lives, but they can't
make us whole if we're broken. And all of us are flawed in one fashion or another. Putting the responsibility of our happiness on anyone else's shoulders simply guarantees failure on two fronts. Of course they'll fail no matter how hard they try and after a time they'll simply stop trying. And our disappointment will inspire resentment so that all too soon our unhappiness becomes their fault. The end is never far behind. But that's not altogether a bad thing.
Some endings transform quickly into precious gifts, even though at the time they seem tragic. Sometimes it takes a bit of space to grieve for what is lost before you can see what's been found. Endings push you into change and force your focus inward. And more times than not that is a most wondrous thing. Finding yourself suddenly alone is overwhelming if you've spent a long time gifting someone else with all that you own. They may have taken your precious gift and twisted it beyond repair then tossed it back to you in a condition you don't even recognize. If so simply begin anew;
Truly owning your three feet of personal space never comes cheap, but it's always worth any effort necessary to keep or regain possession of what's rightfully yours. Never allow self-doubt to render you helpless when the only way to achieve success is to simply act until it becomes fact. Fight until you win, then protect what you own as if your very life depended upon it... because the quality of your life most certainly does. You won't cease to exist, but you'll ONLY exist. You'll simply be a warm body with a lukewarm life.
There's not a chance in hell, of freedom or happiness unless you're first willing and then able to risk it all to possess it all. I've been at both ends of this mindset or lack thereof; if I wasn't certain that it's possible to find peace and silence of the soul I wouldn't bother saying it so many times, in so many different ways. But you have to look in the right place or all your efforts will be as useless as looking for dry land at the bottom of the ocean. All the tools are core deep and if you haven't found them yet it's because you haven't dug deep enough. Think about it... let it ride... then YOU decide!!!
Donating your free-will for the price of love is always a heart-breaking, soul-shrinking rip off. Handing over something truly precious to gain what is falsely portrayed as priceless is a brutal life-lesson. Don't get me wrong... I know true love exists. I also know that real love will never shrink you until you fit snuggly up under someone else's thumb. If you're made less in any fashion then think a bit deeper before you sign on the dotted line. If you use less heart and more brain you'll have a more than fair chance of avoiding being left emotionally bankrupt no matter what happens.
The beginning is where the tone is set for all that follows afterward. Dropping the ball during the dating negotiations is easy enough to do. You forget one plus one makes two. In the haze of rosy delight all you notice is the answer and the equation is totally disregarded. Love is in the air... hearts and flowers blind us into believing that giving our all will finally guarantee our happiness. I speak from dire past experience when I say that's a fairytale of the most dangerous sort.
Lasting happiness doesn't come from the outside; we don't absorb it from the atmosphere. There isn't a patch we can wear... no injection to get... or any pill we can swallow will reproduce what our soul hungers for. There are people who bring joy to our lives, but they can't
make us whole if we're broken. And all of us are flawed in one fashion or another. Putting the responsibility of our happiness on anyone else's shoulders simply guarantees failure on two fronts. Of course they'll fail no matter how hard they try and after a time they'll simply stop trying. And our disappointment will inspire resentment so that all too soon our unhappiness becomes their fault. The end is never far behind. But that's not altogether a bad thing.
Some endings transform quickly into precious gifts, even though at the time they seem tragic. Sometimes it takes a bit of space to grieve for what is lost before you can see what's been found. Endings push you into change and force your focus inward. And more times than not that is a most wondrous thing. Finding yourself suddenly alone is overwhelming if you've spent a long time gifting someone else with all that you own. They may have taken your precious gift and twisted it beyond repair then tossed it back to you in a condition you don't even recognize. If so simply begin anew;
Truly owning your three feet of personal space never comes cheap, but it's always worth any effort necessary to keep or regain possession of what's rightfully yours. Never allow self-doubt to render you helpless when the only way to achieve success is to simply act until it becomes fact. Fight until you win, then protect what you own as if your very life depended upon it... because the quality of your life most certainly does. You won't cease to exist, but you'll ONLY exist. You'll simply be a warm body with a lukewarm life.
There's not a chance in hell, of freedom or happiness unless you're first willing and then able to risk it all to possess it all. I've been at both ends of this mindset or lack thereof; if I wasn't certain that it's possible to find peace and silence of the soul I wouldn't bother saying it so many times, in so many different ways. But you have to look in the right place or all your efforts will be as useless as looking for dry land at the bottom of the ocean. All the tools are core deep and if you haven't found them yet it's because you haven't dug deep enough. Think about it... let it ride... then YOU decide!!!
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