THE BLAME

TODAY'S QUOTE:
When you blame others, you give up your power to change. - Author Unknown

The blame game makes losers out of all who play, and some people waste a lifetime stuck inside the narrow walls it erects. There is a huge difference between knowing who wronged you and allowing that event to be the defining moment of your life. Wounds are inevitable. Every human suffers them and all of us are capable of inflicting them. Weapons are everywhere... from fists to whispers... it does not require a gun to take a life. But it does take willingness to remain stuck inside the pain to make the suffering last.

A victim of the moment quickly becomes a casualty for life when too much focus is given to blame and not enough is aimed toward any possible gain. Every scar holds a lesson in survival. Each ache can mark a moment of personal growth. It is not a neat and tidy way of learning, but the quicker a hard lesson is mastered the safer the student remains. Blame has its place in the equation. Imagining it as a solution is dangerous. When it is used as a crutch it continues its damage, without any hope of healing.

When we carry unhealed wounds from childhood the burden on our inner-child is soul deep. Those are the most difficult wounds to heal and the lessons learned are the most bitter. The fact of who is the innocent party and who is to blame are easy to assign. But a child cannot process any lesson. The pain follows into adulthood before it has any hope of a resolution. After a certain point the continued use of blame as a way to self-soothe just gives more power to the one who started the spiral in the first place.
      
How we choose to comfort ourselves is one of the most important choices we will ever make. Sure it matters who owns the blame. Give it back to them; hugging it only deepens the wound.  Using blame as our only bandage guarantees a long life to a trauma you likely did not deserve in the first place. The best thing you can do to revenge an unjust wounding is to put it behind you... rise above it... find peace and be as happy as you can be. The unhappy person who is to blame will never own anything so sweet as that, and that is revenge at its sweetest.

Keep your eyes on the prize and show them they may have given you a bad time, but they did not give you a bad life. To allow that takes total surrender and willingness to shoulder the final blame. If they are long dead and buried then show yourself how worthy you are of success. Become stronger by healing the pain and wise enough to get past the blame. Think about it... let it ride... then YOU decide!!!